Thursday, December 8, 2011

Shortbread and Marriage

Shortbread with rum-soaked currants and orange
3/4 cup currants
1/2 cup rum
1 Tbsp finely grated orange zest
3/4 lb butter, at room temperature
3/4 cup icing sugar
2 1/4 cup flour (all purpose)
1/3 cup cornstarch
icing sugar (for rolling)
Place the currants in a small bowl add the rum and steep for 2 hours (use a good spiced jamaican rum mon!). Drain the currants well and save the rum for another use, such as rum balls. Line 2 baking sheets with parchment paper. Place the butter and icing sugar in a bowl and beat until well combined and lightened. Gradually beat in the flour and cornstarch. Mix in currants and orange zest. Gather the dough into a large ball. Roll the dough into 1" balls and divide among the baking sheets, spacing them 2" apart. Chill the cookies in the fridge for 20 minutes. Preheat the oven to 300 f. Bake the cookies, 1 tray at a time for 20 minutes or until very pale golden around the edges. Cool the cookies on a baking rack, store in a tight sealing container for up to 2 weeks (if they last that long). Sprinkle icing sugar on top before serving. Makes 40 cookies. A note on the baking time. I cooked mine for 30-40 minutes as 20 mins left them barely cooked and crumbling.

The Sanctity of Marriage
Growing up, I always admired my parents for the total love they showed each other. Calling each other their little pet names, hugging, holding hands and kissing (I know there was more because they had 5 kids)! They were married during the war and were together almost 48 years before my father passed away. My mother never remarried because she said no one else could come close to my dad and she never ever stopped loving him.
I myself have been married for almost 14 years to a most wonderful man. I was never married previously but I was engaged (to a guy my mother referred to as a slug!). My husband was married previously. I won't say how we met or how it all began because I like to keep some things private. Suffice to say when we met, he had a wonderful sparkle in his eye. He was handsome, mature, fun and adventurous. To this day, he has all those qualities and more. We were engaged a few months after we met but we did not marry for 1.5 years. Our marriage is not perfect and we have our ups & downs like anyone else. We have gone through many emotional times together and have only gotten stronger. The key, we love and respect each other and, we compromise. 
Over in La La Land, aka Hollywood, I believe marriage is a running joke among celebrities. It annoys me to no end to see two people rush into marriage saying how perfect they are for each other and how deeply they love each other only to cite irreconcilable differences 72 days later (Kim K). Why can they not take marriage seriously? The goal in Hollywood seems to be rush in faster than your friend and spend copious and gross amounts of money on these lavish weddings and then a short time down the road, divorce the sucker and seek spousal support! I can think of alot of people $2mm+ can help. Granted not all Hollywood marriages are like that. Take for instance Bob & Dolores Hope (69 yrs together), Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward (50 yrs together), Jimmy Stewart & Gloria McLean (45 yrs together).
I don't just mean marriages either. Marriages come in all shapes and forms; legal or common-law, man & wife, same sex couple, etc. Many people do not believe in same sex couples marrying; I am not one of them. I firmly believe everyone has the right to marry or forever be together with the love of their life no matter who they are. You may not have that same opinion and that is fine too as it is mine. At any rate, I am going off track again.
I want people to fight for their marriage and not give up so easily. Marriage was never meant to be easy anyway; it is something you always have to work on. I know there are many circumstances that cause divorces and I totally understand them and I can't say I wouldn't do the same under certain situations but for the most part, I think some people give up too easily. 
Like I said before. I will have been married 14 years next month. I hope I have infinite more years with my hubby. I love him with a passion and he is my best friend. I would rather spend the evening with him than a girlfriend. He makes me laugh and cry, gives great hugs and lousy backrubs. He gives me love!
That sparkle I found in his eyes 15 years ago, still shines very brightly. 

Queen T

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